The other night I asked for help remembering all the stuff we needed to send to school with my son for water play day. I read the message to my husband and he said "Woah Woah this is too much for me to remember. Go write it down and tape it to the door."

I had been trying to hold everything in my head - the lengthy list of what he needed to wear, what needed to be packed, and what could be left home. And then I asked for his help, expecting him to try to help hold it in his head too.

And I was frustrated when he said it was too much.

This is one day, there's a whole week of stuff and celebration at his school. And, like, I have to remember all of this.

I KNOW it's too much. That's why I'm asking for help!

And then his idea was just so practical - it relieved a huge mental burden from us both!

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This is one reason why asking for help is important.

Almost all my clients (and me, I guess) have this habit of trying to "do it all themselves" and "balance all the demands" and "keep the balls in the air".

Often, we have systems we use that worked in the past, but when new demands are thrown in, they can overwhelm that system.

And then, perfectionists that we are, instead of finding a new system or asking for help, we default to beating ourselves up about how we're not managing all this well enough.

It's a tried and true pattern, I guess. Which makes it comfortable.

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I got frustrated when my husband handed me a simple, effective solution.

Why? because it was NOT the way I was used to doing things. And the perfectionist in me hated that my way simply wasn't going to work this time. It felt like I had been wrong, which I don't like being. (See above re: the perfectionist in me).

If your default to stressful times, at work and at home, is also some variation of "push harder!" or "fight through the pain" and just waiting for the stressful time to end.... I want you to know that I see you.

And I also want you to know that the "stressful time" isn't going to end, not really.

It's going to be followed up by another one, and another one after that.

And if you can finally make the choice to ask for help and develop new strategies for how to deal with everything you're doing, then instead of "reaching the other side" you will EXPAND YOUR CAPACITY.

You do this through 3 simple steps:

1. Getting super clear on what's important to you (and letting go of what's not)
2. Learning to trust yourself and your intuition
3. Committing to taking good care of yourself

Easy peasy! Right?

I have 3 spots open this summer for new 1:1 clients and I can help you do all that and more.

In less than 6 months my client "E" went from feeling stressed & overwhelmed balancing her life, her role as a mother, and her expanding role at her remote job to handling her busiest, stressful season with ease and grace AND earning a promotion (and instead of sacrificing time with her family & passions she took vacations and stepped up to take a bigger role in her local theater group!).

In less than that, my client "A" went from stressing about her day job to planning for her next step, with a wide-open field of opportunities that she feels truly passionate about, and enough money to keep her and her family happy while she figures it out.

What will you accomplish (with less stress and more joy) over the next 6 months?

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P.S. - This email is brought to you by my babysitter, who is currently sword fighting with my son so that I can write emails. All hail the babysitter!